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Can We Normalize Aftercare for Broken Women?

Rediscovering Identity: Support for Women Post-Abuse

Too many women stand behind men who strip them of their identity, leaving them crushed in private while maintaining a facade of perfection in public. They’ve endured abuse, abandonment, manipulation, and the torment of being under the thumb of narcissists who are celebrated as “gods” in their communities. These women give everything in the name of being a “great wife,” thinking they’re honoring biblical submission, only to lose themselves entirely.

Behind closed doors, the torment is real. The abuse isn’t just physical or emotional it’s spiritual. It replaces the voice of God with the voice of a man who demands worship. It’s a cycle of compromise, isolation, and fear that leaves women broken, voiceless, and unsure of who they even are. And yet, after the dust settles, after the abuse ends, there’s no aftercare.

The Need for Aftercare

What happens to the women who aren’t bitter but broken?
Who are too sad to expose their abuser but still too afraid to speak out?
What about the women who’ve been excommunicated from their churches, labeled as crazy, rebellious, or unfaithful?

These women are left to navigate life after death spiritual death, emotional death, and the death of their identity. They’re left to rebuild without a roadmap, without support, and often without anyone who truly understands their pain. They’re left trying to piece together a relationship with God, knowing they need healing that goes beyond therapy and enters the depths of their soul.

My Story

I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to reach out for help only to be met with silence, rejection, or worse exploitation. I’ve sought spiritual covering, only to find that some leaders wanted to sexualize me, while others offered temporary support before disappearing altogether. I didn’t want to be a bastard. I believe in covering. I didn’t want my ministry, “Strength of a Woman,” to die along with me. But in my most desperate moments, it felt like no one was there.

Yet, even in the depths of my despair, I’ve held onto the truth of who God is. He is a God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). He is a God who sees, hears, and cares (Genesis 16:13). And He is a God who redeems what others meant for harm (Genesis 50:20).

A Call for Change

We need to normalize aftercare for women. Not the kind that’s surface-level or short-term, but the kind that goes deep, that walks with women as they rediscover their identity in Christ. These women need a safe space to grieve, to heal, and to rebuild without fear of judgment or rejection. They need someone to remind them that they are not forgotten, not forsaken, and not alone.

Ephesians 4:15 calls us to “speak the truth in love,” and that includes speaking up for the voiceless and walking with the wounded. We are called to be the hands and feet of Jesus, to carry each other’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and to bind up the brokenhearted (Isaiah 61:1).

A Message of Hope

If you’re reading this and you’re one of these women, know this: You are not alone. You are loved, valued, and seen by the God who created you. Your pain is not the end of your story. God is still writing it, and He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).

You don’t have to navigate this journey alone. That’s why I’m here. “Strength of a Woman” is my ministry, my heart, and my way of giving a voice to the voiceless. Together, we can rebuild what was broken. Together, we can walk toward healing, restoration, and the fullness of life God has for you.

Connect with Me

I want to hear your story, pray with you, and walk with you through your journey. You can connect with me in the following ways:

Together, we can normalize aftercare for broken women. Together, we can show the world what it means to heal. We can thrive. We can live as daughters of the Most High God.

Adonaka